This post is inspired by a post written by my friend AB and I can’t find the link to post
In one of the very famous chapters in the Qur’an, Ar-Rahman (The Most Merciful), Allah starts the chapter by a few short versus. The First one says, “Ar-Rahman!” The verses to follow, though short and fast, describe the manifestation of this mercy. Here: “The most merciful * [It is He who] Taught the Qur’an * [He has] Created man * [He] taught him speech.” The word “Bayan,” translated here as “speech” is more comprehensive than just speech. It is about giving man the ability to express himself, share his ideas, explain what his thoughts, etc.
What is very important to know is that not only is this a right people have but also some kind of “mercy” from Allah upon his creation. When this piece of mercy is taken away from people, they will suffer. They will look for it; they will miss it; their life will be a difficult life. It is similar to taking away from people water, food, air, or shelter. The only difference is that taking away these materialistic needs has an instant apparent effect on them. Taking from people their ability to express themselves has a similar effect but on the their souls, and it will lead eventually to death, but that of the soul.
Oppressive governments do so, and hence the amount of frustration and lack of quality life. But more importantly, we, sometimes, deprive people around us from a good environment where they can “consume” this type of mercy Allah gives them. Here is a few examples to demonstrate how we do that, knowingly or unknowingly:
- In a family setup where one party such as the father or the mother manipulates the scene, He/She is the one who talks, makes decisions, figures out what is right and what is wrong, directs the whole course of discussion and actions. Others, especially children, will not experience the mercy of Allah expressing themselves within the family. The first and the most important support system, in that case, will lack this type of mercy.
- In the work place when more eloquent people manipulate the discussion, have the largest share of talking and expressing themselves. Doing so gets their creative ideas out but excessiveness in doing so deprives others from sharing theirs which can be as good. In addition, and more importantly, they create an environment where this type of mercy is missing.
- Friendship loses its value when people do not get the opportunity to share with friends their emotions and their thoughts. Friends who do not allow their friends to exercise this type of mercy are not good friends. Friends listen more and talk less.
I can’t forget the quote by one of the great scholars of Islam in which he said, “I hear someone else’s thought with full attention, excitement, and praise, while I know for sure that he heard this very idea from me.” I say, what a man! This is the kind of people you want to be around.
Those who know me, probably, know why I am writing this. 😥