For a reason or another, I have been losing a lot recently. Believe it or not, even in soccer, I have been losing. In business, things are not moving well. In my volunteer work, I am also challenged and have been, well, not succeeding. On the family level, Oops, not sharing personal details 🙂
We have been created to love winning. My athletic life created a very strong desire in me to win, not only to win but to hate losing. When I lose (and I am sure every one else feels the same), I have this bitter feeling that I can’t describe. But it is not nice. Recently, I have been thinking of something good about losing so I do not really feel bad. After a little reflection, I do not think it is really that bad to lose especially if you try your best to win. I even argued (against my win-loving self) that it is better sometimes to lose. Here is why.
- You do not always learn by winning. You learn as much, or even more, by losing.
- Winning sometimes brings to you all sorts of bad qualities such as arrogance and self deceit. Losing sometimes brings positive feelings such as humility
- Losing makes you understand your weak self and reminds you with the real power, the one that Allah grants you if He wills. It makes you seek His support and beg Him for help. Winning, on the other side, may make you forget Him
- Losing makes others (who defeat you) happy. If those others are family, friends, or coworkers, it is very nice to let them feel happy
- Losing gives you an energy to try to win while winning may make you relax
- AND FINALLY You can’t really feel the sweet taste of winning without feeling the bitter taste of losing 🙂
I have a much longer list of things to say why winning is better. I will share them insha’Allah, just when I am in the corresponding state 🙂
This is not an invitation for you to lose. It is just a reminder that if you lose, it is OK. Be positive about it as I am.
Happy Successful New Year everyone!
Those who are like me, enjoy the blessings of losing!